We all get angry. It’s a natural human emotion, one that can help us protect ourselves and know what kind of situations or circumstances we don’t want in our lives. There is nothing wrong with being angry. Unfortunately, our society has created a dialogue that has made people who get mad feel like crazy-loons. This discourse needs to be restructured. There is nothing wrong with anger; there is only something wrong with the way one can choose to express that anger. This is a very important distinction to make because if we feel like we aren’t allowed to be angry we bottle it up inside, which is terrible for our mental and physical health. When we keep the anger inside it comes out in strange ways creating problems in our relationships with others and/or makes our muscles tense and hard.
So what are some things that you can do to feel this emotion, and move through it in a positive way? Here are 4 methods to help you dispel anger from your body, mind, and soul:
Write about it. I know I recommend this a lot of this site but journaling really is a great way to hear yourself and understand the root of your disturbances. Sometimes we just want to be heard and we should practice being our own best listener.
Create a ritual to dispel the anger. Necessary tools: 1) Sharpe marker, 2) a rock, 3) yourself. Write down the name of the person or the situation that is making you angry on a rock. Take the rock down to the beach and hold it to your heart. Then, once you have ran through the story of your anger in your mind, and have allowed yourself to fully feel the energy of anger in your body, throw the rock into the water and let it float or sink away to a new place. As you are throwing the rock imagine that you are throwing away the attachment to this anger and that you are freeing yourself from the negative repercussions you can have by holding on to it.
Practice yoga, go for a walk, or do any physical activity of your choice that you enjoy. Before you start, create the intention of allowing your anger to flow through you as you do the activity. At the end of the activity thank your anger for accompanying you and tell it that it is safe to go now. Feel the anger release form your body.
Ask your anger what gift it has for you. Feeling angry helps us learn about our character and helps us observe how we interact with others. Meditate for 5 minutes and, when finished, ask your anger what it wants to share with you. See if there is an action that you can take to ensure that you won’t allow this situation (or a similar situation) to make you angry again.
Remember, anger is your friend. Don’t ignore it, and don’t stuff it, this just prolongs the icky feelings that are associated with this emotion. Use anger as a teacher to create positive motion and change.